You relationship with your boyfriend ended and now you ask why he broke up and will he come back to you? These tips will help you get your ex back quickly.
When your boyfriend breaks up with you, the first and the most natural instinct or question you have is to ask “why?” Its fine asking him the question first time but the next 10-20 times gets a bit too much, don’t you think? If you still love him then the next question you ask yourself is why he broke up and will he come back to you? If you really want the answer to that question then you are in the right place. This article will not only answer to your questions, but will also show you what can be done to get the desired answer.
Why he broke up with you?
First question as I said is to know “Why he did what he did?” and once we know that then we can look how to tackle it. So try to answer this question as honestly as possible. Were you guys fighting a lot lately or did he cheat on you or did you? Or was it that you both got lazy and the relationship just dozed off. I know answering these questions is not easy, but you need to take the first step in the right direction.
How did he break up?
Once you have analyzed your relationship and found out why he broke up than comes the next question, which is, how did he do it? Now I know that this is a horrid memory for you, but gather up the strength to go down this memory lane one last time. What we are looking for are his emotions while doing it. Did it happen when you guys were fighting and he said “This is it, it’s over” or was it a closed door conversation where he told that things are not working out anymore.
The emotions he was in the last moments of your relationship shows how he felt about the whole ordeal. Lastly, try to remember how you reacted to this unpleasant event. Did you start crying right there or did you slapped him. Knowing this would help you to understand how much work there is to be done.
Why may he come back?
There are some particular reasons why a guy comes back. Some of these are good while some are just plain selfish. You need to know both of them to learn how to tackle them.
He Misses You
Anyone who has been in a relationship knows that missing someone with whom you spent all your time. So, this is a good enough reason for him to come back to you, but not good enough for him to stay, remember that. Your goal is to make him miss you every time he is away from you even if it just for minutes.
He Regrets Breaking Up
If the break up happen in a fight or in hastiness then this is common. If you make all the right moves than you can make him regret breaking up with you as well. But this too has its limits as a guy may regret breaking up with you, but won’t do anything about it because he is a guy (Dumb/ego).
He Wants Physical benefits
This is the worst kind of guys who on the one end wants to have sex with you, but on the other hand don’t want no relationship stuff. These are the guys we call commitment phobic. They won’t commit to anything or anyone in the world and wants to be a free agent all their life. But the only thing that can tie such a guy down is a woman strong enough to let him go.
Too Much History
Some couples break-up and make-up a lot and these are the ones we call couple with too much history. They can’t seem to make up their mind on what they want. Either they want each other, but won’t commit or they don’t want each other and are scared to start all over again.
What do you want?
After knowing why he broke up and will he come back remains the question is what do you want from him now. Before trying to get him back you need to make up your mind if you want him back or you are better off alone. And once you have decided that you do want him back then you need to decide what limits are you willing to cross. What conditions are you willing to accept to get him back? Getting him back is not going to be easy if you are still confused about your feelings. Finally if you decide to get him back then read on to know the best way to get him back.
How to make him come back?
Two things you need to know about guys, first they are very visual and second they believe every rumor when it comes to their ex. Using these two things we will try to get your ex back.
No Contact Rule
If you know anything about break up then you know that they are messy and you don’t want to do any permanent damage. No contact is the best way of achieving this goal. For those who don’t know what no contact rule is then let me explain. No Contact rule says you not to talk text or have any form of communication with your ex for a period of 4-6 weeks minimum. Secondly everyone knows that, the more you ignore someone the more they seek out for your attention. So, cut off all ties with them including digital one. The only exception to this rule is if you have kids together, if you two work together or if you share the same house. In such caseses also you can only talk if necessary.
No contact does not means that you can’t talk to anybody, so talk to someone about it before you explode. These are the times where friends and family are your biggest support system. So you rely on them a bit to help you up. If you are feeling emotional or mad then talk to someone before you do something crazy like calling your ex and begging. Having a support system throughout this process is the best way to get through it.
Post break up or the time of no contact which is 4-6 week is not to mope around. Instead utilize this time to work on yourself. You can start going to gym to get in better physique like I said men are visual so getting in the best shape will definitely get you points. Go out with your friends have some fun and have a wardrobe make over if you need. Take up some hobbies you like or go traveling just don’t clear out your bank account or get wasted while doing so.
Two things need to be done in order to let go. First is to pack up his things in a box and send it to him. You don’t need a reminder of what happened everyday in your life. And this time when he does contact you about it just text him and be gentle about it. And secondly, you need to get out more often now that you are single. Start by going out with your friends or family like brother or sister. Then go for some dates.
I am not suggesting you get into a serious relationship right now. Just to go on a date to test the waters and get your groove back. This way you will see there a lot other guys who would actually love to date you. And secondly this will show your ex that you are moving on. Also, this will make him realize what he had lost just enough to tempt him to get back with you.
Of course during all this time you will receive regular updates about your ex either from common friends. But the thing is he too had been receiving news about you as well. He can see how sexy you look after a wardrobe make over and few gym classes. Now you both know about each other and quite possibly he may have contacted you a couple of times but you didn’t reply because of no contact rule. But now that’s over and you are to initiate contact. A chance contact is when something that reminded you of him and you text him about it. This way you two start having a conversation again and may even get back together.
Lastly, keep in mind that there is always chance that things might turn out the way you hoped. But if you have done everything mentioned above then you would have discovered that you don’t really need him to make you happy you have been doing just fine without him as well.