Find the best way to approach a guy you like online on Facebook, Instagram, over text, in school, at the gym, or work without seeming desperate. These tips work even when you have not talked to this guy. Our article on how to get a guy to text you first could be a useful article to read in addition to this.
Do you like someone or, in general, have thought about approaching a stranger across the room but didn’t? Don’t worry; it happens to every woman at least once in her lifetime. I know it's old school for today’s generation, but I generally meet guys in the workplace or at parties or even a bar at times. But what’s not strange now is that today a girl can approach a guy, and no one would judge her one bit. So to all those fellow girls out there who see and like a guy across the room, please stand up and approach him. And if you don’t know how to go about it, follow my lead, and you won’t seem desperate.
First things first, to approach a guy, you need some guts and confidence in yourself. You see, you can’t just wait around for the perfect guy anymore because the chances are that dumb perfect guy is approached by some other bimbo out there. Secondly, you can’t just approach a guy and then start acting all shy and dorky. So it would be best if you had a lot of confidence to do this. But not to worry about what a girl needs to feel confident or pretend to be a confident woman is right down here.
Nothing makes a girl more comfortable in her skin when she knows that she looks hot. It’s a well-known phenomenon that when a person knows they look good, they tend to relax a bit and develop a sense of confidence about themselves. So for you to get some confidence, why not start with looking great. Secondly, how you look is of utmost importance as it is going to be the first thing anyone looks at before getting to know you. So clean yourself up, wear proper attire, put on nice sandals, and lastly, have a nice fragrance on you. Once you know you look good, your confidence will increase, and you are ready to get out there.
When you look good, you feel good. So as you have dress sexy, you may as well feel sexy. Just loosen up a little, don’t take yourself too seriously for at least some part of the day. Feeling sexy is all about being comfortable with just who you are and enjoy a little. If you are comfortable showing some skin, then do it. If not, then don’t. Just do whatever you make feel good to accept going to a party or a bar in your sweat pants; I mean, there is a limit to everything.
The first impression is all about getting their attention and creating some attraction between the two of you. And if you have done the above two steps to feel confident, then no doubt your first impression would be good enough. So let’s see how we can use more of this first impression to approach a guy you like.
Once you have picked a guy you like, then the fun starts. First, make eye contact with the guy, and if you are not in his visual range, get in it but don’t do something drastic. Believe me, after the first impression; there are certainly going to be some eyes on you. So pick one and stay with it. Making eye contact is fun, but don’t linger for too long; take a peek, look around the room, and go back again. It’s like a pinball; you make eye contact and then look away.
After making eye contact a couple of times, it's time to combine it with sly smiles. You should look over at him, and as soon as he looks at you, smile at him and look away and then back at him again. This is what a sly smile is, and the way it works is that guy knows that you were looking at him and that you are interested, and that smile was an invitation for him. Doing this a couple of times would be enough to make him approach you.
Sometimes, a guy is shy or not confident enough to approach you, and that’s when you have to do it. If you like a guy, then go for it; there’s nothing wrong with it after all; it’s the 21st century. Guys today are so into technology that they have actually forgotten how the games work. But now that you are a confident woman, you don’t have to wait around; you can go and approach a guy online or in person at work, school, or a party. Now before doing that, learn the three different kinds of approaches mentioned here.
A simple approach is to get a friend to make the introductions or go by yourself and have a nice chat with him. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you are interested and gives you plenty of opportunities to back off if you find out he is not that interesting. Another way of simple approach is when you take your friends along for the chat. This way, it is not awkward anymore. But I recommend you go by yourself and let him see you coming, so he is ready. This way, he knows that you are interested and have a chance to open up a bit more.
Damsel's approach is a bit more classic or vintage approach. In the early days, women dropped their napkins to show that they were interested, and the guy who picked it up would be considered interested as well. We are just taking the principle of that time and using it as an approach. Ask a guy for a drink suggestion or asking a guy for directions or something obvious that you can figure out yourself. Sometimes I even go for the vintage one in its pure form, throwing a handkerchief down to see if there is a gentleman around. These all damsel approach start their own type of conversations, and then you take it from there.
Now, this is getting serious. The bold approach is calling a guy out on how attracted he is to you. I use this approach two ways: first is when I send a drink to the guy making eye contact and smiling back at me. And second is I ask the guy for a dance. Of course, I find out beforehand if a guy likes to dance or about his ordered drink from the bartender. Although a bold approach may seem a little out there, the chances of success with a bold approach are also that high. If you are confident and the guy is also not very shy, use this method to approach a guy you like.
Once the guy and you two have started talking, now is the time for the reality check. I mean, if you like him enough to date him or want to get it over with. Some guys look great from a distance, but they are as dumb as a bunny once they start talking. So have a nice conversation and try to get the lay of the land properly, check his sense of humor and attentiveness. And to do that, here is your two tools, verbal flirting and visual flirting.
Some of the girls I know get freaked out during the flirting period. They gather enough courage to approach a guy but don’t know how to take it any further. Just chill; this is the fun period; there will be many serious conversations later; this is supposed to be the easy part. If you don’t know how to do it, mirror what the guy is doing because he is probably flirting with you. Please have a good sense of humor, tease him a little, and don’t take anything too much seriously. If all else fails, then use your laughter as it always works.
Verbal flirting is all good and fine, but it needs a bit of focus when it comes to visual flirting. Apart from focus, it also needs a pinch of shyness and, at times, boldness. Visual flirting is to draw the guy’s attention where you want. Like if you want him to kiss you, then make him think about it. While listening to him bite your lower lip on one side just a little. Doing that will immediately draw his attention to your lips, and the guy being a guy would start thinking about kissing you. Similarly, if you want him to look at your face, then gently put your hair curl behind your ears. If you want to draw attention to your legs, rub them while looking at them and then back at him again. A guy’s eyes will follow yours anywhere it goes, so use it to get what you want.
After having a conversation, if you think the guy is not for you, leave him by making a simple excuse and even if the guy is your type, leave now. You see, after a nice conversation, you need to leave before the conversation dies down and you two get bored. Always remember to leave on a high note. This way, you leave him wanting more, and that gets you a date or at the very least another crack at it. So make any simple excuse and leave. The guy won’t really try to stop you as he doesn’t want you to know that he is interested just like you are. But this gives him a chance to ask you out, and if he doesn’t know that, you might as well go for it because the chances are you may never see him again.
Lastly, all I want to say is if you like someone, then go for it. Don’t wait around for the perfect guy to come around because life is short. Just say to yourself, “30 Seconds” that’s all the time you need to approach a guy and say hello, and then you take it from there. The worst that can happen will be if the guy says no. Well, there’s plenty of other guys than this douche bag. So remember this 30 seconds rule, and you will be fine.