Find the best tricks to flirt with girls without being creepy and jerk. These tips will help you improve your flirting skills with the women you like.
Guys often avoid flirting with girls they like because they fear that they might come off as a creep. And let me tell you one of the most popularly asked questions among guys “How to flirt with girls without being creepy?” Here are some tips on what creepy means, how to flirt with girls without being weird, and alternate ways.
It is better to understand what creepy means when flirting than understanding how to avoid it.
Creepy, in this case, acting out so that it makes the girl uncomfortable or threatened. This can happen for several reasons, like when a person pushes their boundaries without considering the other person's wishes, having a conversation about sex when it is not welcomed, and sometimes even ignoring the indications that the person’s presence is unwanted. Sometimes, even the most casual people may seem threatening when they are backing you up against the wall or when they hold your hand for a little more than usual.
These are not all the possible ways a person can be deemed as creepy there are a lot more, but if we try to get into all of it, we might never be able to avoid it during flirting. So for the general purpose, these are the most common scenarios that we will work with today.
First, going out and having a conversation with some stranger is not creepy because this is how you meet people and make friends. That been said, there is still a suitable time and place for everything, and sometimes it’s not right to start a conversation with a stranger.
So, if you want to flirt with a girl without being creepy, then the first thing you need to know is ‘where’ and ‘when you are, as it provides a base for the conversation. While understanding the concept of time and place, you also need to learn how to avoid making someone feel cornered or trapped. For example, meeting a woman at a bar or a club and flirt with her might feel like the most normal thing in the world, but meeting the same woman for the first time in an empty room and then try to flirt with her there can see threatening because she has no way out to get away from you if she wants to. She is most likely to feel more in danger as if she is trapped and the most famous example of this is elevator flirting.
Once you understand the time and place concepts, you need to learn how to make yourself socially acceptable in these surroundings. Let’s say some behaviors are more approved in some places than in others. For example, people in a nightclub are more prone to physical contact than at the bookstore or a library. It would help if you stayed socially acceptable because the more your actions are inappropriate, the more you seem like a creep.
Before you decide to go up to someone, you need to make sure that person is in the mood to be approached. Typically people who are not interested or would not like to be disturbed often make a habit of signaling the same by their body language. So you need to look for the signs. For example, suppose a person is sitting hunched back with her arms crossed and turning away from the crowd, then it is evident that she would not like to be disturbed. Sometimes people make it very obvious, like they wear headphones or sunglasses to avoid eye contact. Still, even then, some people don’t see the sign disturb this person by waving a hand in front of their eyes or by trying to take off their headphones, and that is just borderline creepy so avoid doing that even if the girl you see may be the most beautiful one in the whole world.
Now, this is where the problem starts: you start overthinking, like what do you do? What to say? Should you tap on her shoulder? Should you clear your throat to get her attention? When to go deep flirting? When to ask for her number?
Don’t get too excited, or you will not be able to think straight. Remember, your goal is to start a simple conversation and maintain it for a while; thinking about anything further than that will make you freeze up and miss your window. So to flirt with girls without being creepy, you need to make it fun and not sensual.
The best way to approach is from the front making sure that you are visible to her when you are approaching and not to startle her by approaching from behind. Coming from the front and facing her head-on can help avoid being creepy and make her less threaten as she knows where you are coming from. And remember, this is beginning, so to be safe, you need to keep a respectable distance from her, which would be at an arm’s length when you start talking. I have seen guys picking up girls by saying something stupid in the beginning, but she took it as a joke, and sometimes honesty works like a charm like “You seem like a cool person, so I wanted to meet you.” But remember, never start a conversation directly from sexual thoughts or racial ones, for that matter, because that is plain creepy.
I have learned from experience that people love to push boundaries, so why not provide them with one. For example, the false time limit is to say “Hi, I’ve only got a few minutes before” and then say anything like “I have to meet with friends” or “I have to get back to the office.” Or anything like these. This is a great strategy to flirt with girls without being creepy and making a great impression.
To begin with, this time limit reassures the girl that she only has to talk to me for only a few more minutes, and then I have to go, which acts as a nonthreatening agent. It also allows her to express herself if she finds you annoying by saying, “Don’t you have to be somewhere,” and it works for you as well in a case where you see her uninteresting after talking to her for a couple of minutes. And lastly, it allows you to leave on a high note and leave her wanting more and much more likely to give you her number if asked.
Start with a light conversation or a funny pickup line, and once you get her attention, then you can go for a bit of bantering and flirting; don’t go for the extreme ones just yet. Pickup lines must be funny, and they work if they aren't rude. Use a pickup line like "Your eyes are beautiful; they told me everything about you, except your name.". Such lines break the ice, and now you can flirt with the girl without being creepy. Next, you can move into a meaningful double sentence where you mean something nice but say it differently but don’t be rude. If you think you are near the line, compliment her and then again go for bantering; in fact, make it a rule to banter her little, followed by a compliment.
When it comes to deep flirting and topics like sex there, you need to be careful. Going in that direction can be tricky, especially if you have just begun. This doesn’t mean that sex is entirely off the table, as some people naturally have that sense of humor that runs towards that thought the minute you sit beside them. But never push this topic when it’s not wanted because that makes you a creep. Instead, try starting with some playful banter and then some naughty jokes; this will tell you if she is open for this type of conversation and then go from there.
Next, you may want to compliment her or make her feel good talking to you. Read our guide on how to make a girl blush for some useful tips.
So let’s say you said something wrong or moved in a little too close or touched her for a while longer than usual. And now you think you have accidentally started to creep her out, and you don’t know what to do? So here are some ways to make it right. It's simple; all you need to do is take a step back and apologize. Like, say “Hey, I am sorry, that came out wrong,” or sometimes plain honesty works like “Hey, I think I may have started to creep you out a little bit, and I apologize for that.” Remember to apologize if you think you screwed up big time because if you apologize, then it is considered a mistake, and this way, you will flirt and will not come as a creep.
It’s natural to be wanting to stay as long as you can when things are going well but then comes a time when the thing starts to die down. But maybe it is better to leave now when you have had a friendly chat, and there is still a little spark there to remember you before it gets boring, and she makes an excuse to leave.
In general, it is better to leave the conversation sooner rather than later. Because if you try to prolong the conversation as much as you can, then after a specific time, it gets boring, which is not a good sign, and it will show in her body language, but if you still try to continue, then that is just creepy. On the other hand, leaving when things are going well means that she will positively remember you and you’ll be the guy she had fun with and wished if she could again rather than the guy who bored her to death by hanging around all day and wouldn’t leave her alone. , So finally you can ask her for her number.